This is going to be a place of honesty. On entrance please leave your party shoes and wings (both right and left).
A couple of quotes from Laird’s Commentary on Community and Consensus blog post – dealing with difficult community issues. I really like that the author shows that there’s always at least two sides in the conflict. I so much prefer this to strict “goodie and badie” judgement a hint of which shows in somebody’s else comment.
“two people with very different communication styles can each feel bullied by the other. Because each may come across as insisting that the other person adopt their style as a pre-condition of being willing to communicate, it can lead to a stalemate with each blaming the other”
“Stretching, by definition, entails a certain amount of awkwardness, trying to figure out how far you’re willing to move outside your comfort zone to find an intersection with a person you find difficult. If you’re going to give up on them, you need to be able to sleep at night with having made that decision. Most people think of themselves as reasonable and compassionate. Have you lived up to your own standards with respect to adjusting how you come across in order to reach the other person?”
We need to think carefully what to grow in our eco-village in order to obtain maximum of healthy nutriens spending minimum time and effort. This is what was traditionally planted in autumn in some temperate and subtropical regions.
This is what crop plants Nan K. Chase recomends, presumable for North America: Parsley, Coriander, Radishes, Greens (Spinach, chard, kale and lettuce), Horseradish, Rhubarb, Strawberries, Chives, Onions, Leeks and Garlic.
Please keep in mind that we all differ in what food is better for us. Some have allergies, others can’t stand too much acidity, etc. Some edible vegetables could become toxic if used too much, for example rhubarb contains a bit of poisonous oxalic acid.
A family can’t be, as they start and split, kids grow up and move, partners unfortunately outlive each other. Some people just want to stay single. There should be a recognizable community all people could belong if they wished. Workplaces change, more and more people work from home. Yet everybody needs to live somewhere.
I think to feed the hunger of belonging, all places of living should have real active neighbourhood communities, so nobody feels isolated and not cared for.
This may not necessary be called an ecovillage but still should exist. It won’t happen overnight. We all need to get used to the idea of being friends to our neighbours and moving into a neighbourhood, into an intentional community, not just buying an affordable house, – as a step towards a happier future.
As long as the group ideology is not dogmatic and people are free to leave I see this as a positive trend. Hopefully the time will come when people will be able to decide where exactly to live based on where like-minded people are living. This is a way to form friendly neighborhoods, real intentional communities everywhere.